Paul’s next exhortation is to be fruitful in every good work. (Col. 1:10) Because every child is unique in personality, intelligence, and abilities, every child can be pronounced “fruitful” in the personal plan and purpose God has for their life.
What would you say the odds are that a child diagnosed with autism, generalized anxiety disorder, obsessive compulsive disorder, and sensory issues would one day break school records in track, be named a four-time all-American athlete, and be recruited by 15 colleges before landing an athletic scholarship? Pretty slim I think.
Bree Bogucki is that child, and for her, team sports seemed like a far-fetched dream. Then she discovered Special Olympics and began competing in rhythmic gymnastics, then artistic gymnastics, volleyball, basketball, softball and powerlifting. Every small success became a big leap for Bree who begins each competition with the Special Olympics quote, “Let me win, but if I cannot win, let me be brave in the attempt.”
As a mom, this story makes my heart soar with hope. If you have ever watched the Special Olympics, then you know a box of Kleenex is essential! The inspiration and courage of the participants is only surpassed by the unwavering support and unconditional love of the parents.
Hebrews 12:1 exhorts,
“…let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.”
We cannot and must not allow ourselves to measure the good efforts and victories of our children by what others are able to do or even willing to do. The creator has marked out a race for every child, and it is our job to see that he/she makes it successfully to the finish line, regardless of the pace. My dear friend, the late Zig Ziglar used to say, “It’s not where you start, but where you finish that counts.”
- Pray for your child to be successful in his or her endeavors, not to necessarily win every game or score high on every test, but to find an area of life that he or she enjoys doing and does well. A child whose self-esteem is smashed over failure will be an adult whose self-esteem is easily destroyed.
- Pray for them to learn something good from every failure.
- Pray for the courage to keep trying new things even when they fail, and especially when they fail.
LASTLY: Share your own failures with your child honestly, but be sure to also share what you learned from it and how you used that wisdom to move forward in life.